Frances Sales, in her blog, Topaz Horizon, recently wrote about the price of perfection in social media.
Have you read it already? Basahin niyo muna, game. It’s really a good read then balik kayo sa akin here.
I have been meaning to write about that too. I have been meaning to talk about how people shouldn’t judge other people based on what they see on social media. Para kasi sa akin, your social media is parang your art. This is a place where you can express yourself. Kanya-kanyang trip yan, right? Pero para i-judge natin a person solely because of what they see online about us, kalokohan.
A lot of you guys message me saying that it seems I have everything in life. It seems na kaya ko gawin ang lahat ng sabay sabay. I make it look easy, you say. Parang ang galing galing ko to balance my family, my work, my blog and other stuff. Masaya ako. I have a perfect family. I have a lot of friends who love me. I can buy whatever I want. I am a great parent to Anika. Parang ang saya lagi sa bahay namin because of the Sombrero Sitcoms, etc, etc.
Here is the truth, mga bakla:
HINDI LAHAT YAN AY 100% TRUE.
I’m sorry to burst your bubble pero walang perfect na life, guys. Our lives become perfect when we think that it’s perfect. Mine’s definitely not but I am trying my hardest to be contented with it.
Why do you think my anxiety disordered was triggered? Apart from having it na talaga since I was younger, it was triggered because akala ko kasi ako si Darna na kaya ko pagsabay-sabayin isipin and gawin ang lahat. I aimed perfection. Ayun. Sumabog. Learnings yan for you guys. Do not self-inflict stress by trying to attain unrealistic goals you have set yourself. If it seems that I have everything under control, remember na hirap din ako. Magaling lang ako ngumiti sa camera.
I also do not have a perfect family. I just choose not to air out our dirty laundry. Baka pagnilahad ko lahat dito yan, pwede kong matalo yung teleserye na Mara Clara. My family is not perfect but we try our best na magkasundo sundo, be it in my immediate family or extended family.
I am not a perfect parent to Anika. At home, sometimes I spend too much time on my phone. May mga days na hindi ko nilalaro si Anika. Yung pagod kasi sa buhay sometimes catches up on me kaya dine-deadma ko lahat. Inaabot ko sa kanya yung iPad ng kusa minsan for her to be preoccupied and not bother me. May mga araw na gusto ko mapag-isa. It makes me feel guilty but I think my mental wellness is more important than the guilt. Sometimes nga, hinahayaan ko na lang if bagsak si Anika sa Filipino tests niya. Nakakatamad intindihin the right answers in her tests so keber. Iniisip ko, hindi naman niya ikakabagsak sa buhay yung subject na yan. Those are only some of the not so nice things that I do as a parent. However, even if I do that, I am definitely sure I am doing the best I can as a parent. Susuntukin ko ang magsabi otherwise.
With regard to material things, di ba post ako ng post ng mga outfits ko or ng mga nice things online? I don’t care if they say I’m materialistic. First, it makes me happy. Posting my outfit of the day / face of the day / earrings of the day makes me happy. Mababaw na kung mababaw but doing that relieves me of my day to day stress. Second, alam ba nila kung ilang businesses ang natutulungan ko when I do that? Especially with mompreneurs, gustong gusto ko when they send me messages that a lot of people bought their products because they saw it in my post. I believe one of our purpose here in this life is to help others. I am happy that through my social media I am able to do that. That is also the reason why wala talaga akong pakialam what people say about what I post online.
If you know people who are like that, sabihan niyo kaya na instead of putting their energy talking about other people, ilagay nila yang energy na yan into good use. The world may become a better place pa because of that.
Janis dati told me that when you look at my social media accounts, you will not know na may problems din ako na sinasagupa. I told her natural. May problema ka na nga, ilalagay mo pa ba sa social media mo yan? Eh di nag-hasik ka pa ng bad vibes sa iba. Each and everyone of us have our own challenges that we do not anymore show to other people so it really pays to be always be kind.
Be kind and try our best not to judge other people.
Bow.